Losing Yourself Is Love
The most beautiful part of man-woman love and that of marriage is you losing yourself. That is, you have for the very first time let down yourself totally and held someone not you as being more important than yourself. This new freedom from your passion for yourself is love and deserves that celebration called marriage.
But later, if you question yourself whether your love was against you and your pursuit of life, it would be absurd. This is why like-mindedness is said to matter only to an extent in a relationship, when you are certainly allowing yourself "to be taken for granted" then. And this is the reason everyone wants you to find the right person as your partner: someone who would not abuse you, when you are willfully offering all of yourself.
Yes, marriage brings to your life tremendous transformation within and outside of yourself. If you ever regret any of those changes, then you only contemplate your love. You could have transitioned to another domain only to earn better, relocated for your new family or decided to stay home 24/7 for the kids. If you ever felt sorry for any of this, you are then caught in an irrational dilemma. As said above, you then only have to look deeper and deeper into your own emotion to get over such self-induced self-centred thoughts (read "traps''). When your better half is a beautiful spirit ever beside you, you have not lost a thing.
Deeper understanding of every life situation will reveal to yourself what lies ahead of you. All-pervading Divine Grace is what you have to seek, if you ever find your innate joys lost 'cause that's the ultimate source of the much-needed clarity for a better future.
